Strategic Indifference
As a pastor, one of the tremendous disservices you can do to yourself and your support structure(especially your immediate family) is to fail to distinguish between the sheep and the goats within your congregation. Jesus gave the first Christian pastor a charge to take care of his entire flock but took time to emphasize the dichotomy and the need to create different growth tracks for each group, so you don't miss heaven(lol) and put your family through hell on earth. The goat